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(BDSM and) The art of saying "no".

Whatever form of relationship you may have, whether it is plain vanilla (non-kink) or D/s or M/s, EPE, TPE, contractual or lifestyle: you always have the right to say "no".

Saying "no" to something just means that at that specific moment you are not feeling up to it! Whatever the reason may be.

Saying "no" does **not** imply that it is the end of the relationship with your partner!!! It won't necessarily end in a break-up.

Saying "no" is in fact an invitation to talk seriously, to see if things are still all right between you, to take time to talk about smouldering frustration(s), to (re)discover (or (re)negotiate) the relationship dynamic.

In other words say "no" is the best way to improve a consensual relationship between adults (even if it contains non-consensual elements).

Whether talking may change your mind about the subject, is completely irrelevant! What is relevant, is the need for communication!

Saying "no" is always a win!

@Lord_Fine checking up on you...I have been busy trying to get my stuff together for the RV relocation this month, I do have a year- around campground membership now and a place to park the RV. Having electrical problems with the DC circuits, and you know anything electrical on a vehicle costs $$$ to trace and fix. =(

Hope all is well.
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