#bdsm #kink #flogging short story 

short story

Her legs were starting to tremble slightly as she felt how her energy was almost spent. With crooked elbows she hung on to the ropes her cuffs were attached to, to prevent her from collapsing like a failed soufflé. She felt the flogger quickly land 25 more times on her inflamed buttocks. Her skin felt red-hot: it looked red and felt hot as hell!

"I think we'll call it a day..." she heard.

With the last remnants of her energy she straightened her head, looked straight into her tormentor's eyes, and with a huge smile on her lips she asked softly: "more... Please?"

Her tormentor grinned back sadistically...

#kink #bdsm Mindplay 

Mindplay (3 of 3)

Where mindplay differs from hypnosis: the sub is always conscious before, during and after. The sub knowingly receives the suggestion and is the sole actor who can install/accept the necessary change of thought and behaviour. With hypnosis there is an outside source that tries to influence or change a future state of mind/behaviour. While hypnosis can be a useful tool during a scene, it is and always will be *less powerful* than mindplay.

Personally I find it altogether more interesting, fun (and challenging) to convince a sub's mind about something, to alter her state of mind than having to resort using hypnosis.

PS: the confusion between mindplay and hypnosis comes from book titles by Mark Wiseman, such as"Mind Play: a guide to erotic hypnosis" and "The Mind Play Study Guide"

#kink #bdsm Mindplay 

Mindplay (2 of 3)

2. Humiliation: being instructed to do certain tasks (in public). Humiliation is a strong mindgame in itself, but it can backfire if you ask too much (at the same time). e.g. kneeling, wearing no underwear when in public, sending a sub to a pet shop for a new collar, ...
3. Role play: when a sub identifies so strongly in a (chosen) role, it can not only trigger their imagination, but also start of process of deep emotional empathy and identification with the character.
4. Edge play: activities that could be detrimental to the sub's health. e.g. knife play (or cutting), fire play, breath play.

Caution: play with someone's mind carefully. Though one can do mindplay over long distances, it is recommended not to. If you suspect that your sub will lose rational control: halt the scene immediately!

In any case plan for aftercare: you will **need** to guide the sub coming out gently of the scene.

#kink #bdsm Mindplay 

Mindplay (1 of 3)

Someone recently compared "mindplay" to hypnosis. They are not the same!

Simply put: mindplay is the subtle "art" (yes, it is an art!) to influence, (re)direct, introduce, suggest certain thoughts, expectations or images in a sub. Mindplay is almost always present during a bdsm scene - any scene actually. Just before a Dom/me and a sub start a scene, they prepare themselves mentally. That's one form of mindplay. But mindplay can enhance a scene as well. e.g. by using a blindfold. Or making a sub wait for something to happen. Or by whispering a sub in his/her ear during a scene.
"BDSM is between your ears" says it all. We all do it.

Mindplay can be categorized in 4 main categories:
1. Misleading or threatening games (the real mindplay). Tell a sub in advance of all kinds of things that could happen without specifying exactly what you have planned. Your sub's imagination will play a game with itself. Ignorance is a Dom/me's advantage.

#kink #fetish #bdsm 

I just read a rant from a Dutch Pro Dominatrix who was complaining that the (bdsm) "lifestyle" was being ruined by too many fetishists being around.

What a strange thing to say! Looking at the definition of fetish, it can easily be argued that bdsm is a fetish as well...

Even weirder is that said Dominatrix was proud of her high selling volumes of... foot fetish vids! :ms_confused:

But hey: what do I know? I'm not a pro Domme after all! :ms_grinning:

#kink #bdsm Chinese? 

In case seems an oddball collection of rituals and terms to you, and you think it might be easier to learn Chinese:

everipedia.org/wiki/lang_en/BD

🤣

#kink #bdsm antiquity 

We all know that practices aren't new nor a modern trend. But at some time this kind of practice may even have been ritualistic...

The Tomb of the Whipping (Italian: Tomba della Fustigazione) is an Etruscan tomb dating from approx 490 BC...

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tomb_of_

Eeuh: are you sure we're talking about the same thing here??? 🤣

* Bored Deprived Soccer Moms
* Business Development, Sales (and) Marketing.
* Beating Donald's (Trump) Saggy Meat
* Big Dog Snuggly Moment
* Big Dog Snuggling Me
* Bible Discussion Study Meeting
* Bible Daily Study (for) Men
* Bananas, Dragonfruit, Strawberries, Mangos
* An acronym for buddhism
* Bitch Don't Shoot Me (Fortnite)
* Break Dancing Special Moves
* Being Depressed So Much
* Bloody Disgusting Sexual Manners
* Bacon, Donuts, Sausage (and) Mini-wheats
* Big Dick Small Mind (or Mouth)
* Big Dark Strange Man
* Being (a) Disappointment (to) So Many (people)
* Bro, Dykes Suck! Man
* Boobies Don't Smell Manly
* Big Danish Sexy Man
* Bald Dick Scratchy Man-parts
* Boring Direct Strong Message
* Beating Dorky Sabrina Madly
* Bitches Don't Send Messages

#kink promo 

hypnotransgirl got me thinking about what we could do to up the "visibility" of kinky.business as a friendly mastodon server.

So maybe kinky.business could do with a few more active kinksters. So why not do some (free) promotion on servers like tumblr or fetlife?

I'm not the greatest of graphic artists, but why not see if we can create some good promotional images? So I fumbled around the interweb for a few hours and this is what I came up with..

Series 1 of 5 (all images are SFW!)

Yesterday when I was browsing kinky.business, I got suddenly hit by a wave of nostalgia. It took me a while to figure out where it came from, and then it hit me!

kinky.business has the same "feel" to my memories as the bulletin board systems from the good ol' days in a past far away, where one still had to handshake modems to get access (compare it to logging in now), browsing the forums looking for new kinky threads (same thing) and using an (fidonet) mail-tosser / composer to view and answer messages (clicking direct messages link).

It surely is an age thing for an old sod like me, but do know that I'm very grateful to Sir Sgt (@bedtimedrillsgt) for making me think back to those days when all this kind of stuff was new (pre-web 0.1 vs web 3.0) and kink was not really a common thing to be talked about! :ms_cat_joy: :vulcan_hmn_g2: :flogger: :cuffs:

Someone asked me details about how to make floggers. And although I've made a few for myself, it's not my specialty. So I asked around and got a set of guidelines for flogger design from a Dutch private designer. I've translated them so it's become *open knowledge* for everyone! :flogger: :ms_cat_smile:

Instead of turning it into a toot in 12 parts, I'll just post 2 public links to the same text:
paste.city/254
pastebin.com/0JXA6fwj

Have fun!

It has been a long time since I had to explain the basics of Power Exchange to an interested beginner sub.

And frankly I seem to have forgotten that it might be difficult for a sub to understand that even though she surrenders her "power" to a Dom, she still has the final say in the matter... 🤔

But it's not that complicated, is it? Either that or I'm doing an awfully bad job of explaining it... :ms_scream:

Kinky Business

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