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#introduction 

Hello fellow kinksters,
I'm a 30-something str8 trans man based in Italy. You can call me Mr. Blackbuck. I am a kinky Top, not really a proper Dom yet, but getting there :)
I'm also a leftist, a vegetarian, and an atheist with a pagan twist
I'm here to connect with other people who are into BDSM, have fun and be myself.
Talk to me, I don't bite, unless you want me to ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
Happy to be here!

What's a grunge Daddy called? (kink pun - bad) 

Daddy Vedder

CNC philosophy lewd 

I don't talk about it very much because it's a kink that can be intensely triggering to people and is easily misunderstood, but

a well-negotiated consensual non-consent scene (or even just discussion) is a huge turn-on to me. It combines so many smaller things I enjoy into this big flaming supernova of rough, unapologetic dominance

It happens very, very rarely, but when it does, it makes my heart sing like nothing else can.

On Comment Etiquette 

Source: fetlife.com/users/5444515/post

Edit: Several folks have reached out to ask if they can link to this as a resource. Please feel very free to do so, no individual request required.

I like sharing my work online, but I want to stop cringing at the comments that people (and let's be honest, they're mostly men) leave behind. I receive responses that I believe are often well meaning to my photos that I really don't enjoy, and it occurs to me that people sometimes don't realize what they're doing when they say shit like "you should be on your knees like that in front of me, baby" or "I just want to kiss you from neck dwon [sic] and play with your clit".

Why do these comments feel gross?

Because they're a projection of your sexuality onto me. I want to share a photo of something that actually happened and has a whole context of its own, which you erase in doing that.

Personal (kink) 

I think now that realizing I was a Daddy saved my life, in a way. I've struggled to connect with the sweet, nurturing part of my personality all my life, to the point I was convinced it wasn't even there, or, at best, that I somehow grew "over" it.
Now that I embraced my inner Daddy, life has new colors, and caring for someone full time taught me that I can be *gentle*, instead of angry at the world all the time.
Huge thing for me, my mates

bj lewd 

Those of you who like sucking cock... what do you like the most? What really does it for you?

Moving Fund 

My wife London and I are trying to move cross country with our daughter to live in my sisterโ€™s spare room (no rent and utilities paid), but we canโ€™t do it without serious help.

We have no income, no savings, and nowhere else to go.

Neither of us can find work due to discrimination and disability.

Itโ€™s a 750 mile (1207 km) drive.

Weโ€™re trying to raise $1,500 USD over the next month before our lease runs out on Jan 5th.

paypal.me/pools/c/8krXRyBJKd

Good morning, the abbreviation for the Portuguese word for "Friday" ("sexta-feira") is "SEX."

Fetlife 

Hey guys, I'm on fetlife as MrBlackbuck
Say hello if you're there!
There's also a nice picture of my torso you can appreciate u_u

Ps. I actually haven't really understood how the thing works exactly but i'm getting there XD

Personal, again 

Wow, this week was tough.
I am... Ok, apparently. Me and girl are fine, oh, so fine.

I was... Insecure, irrational, bitchy, inappropriate, angry, confused, scared and defeated. An asshole, more or less. I slept maybe 5hrs all week.

But I think I'm out. A good friend picked me up from my gloom, and girl helped me understand her needs.

She's now sleeping in my sleveless shirt, happy and satisfied.

And I have plenty of reasons to try my best and make her happy.

Personal 

Something really important, and rather beautiful, started today.
Between me and girl.
It took trust on both parts, adventure spirit, compromise and work. Tears and mantears alike (lol) were shed around it, but we made up and mended the holes.
It HAS started, and now it's out there. I thought it would be tougher, but there it is. It IS tough. I have no one to share the news with (it's... sensitive), so here's this post.
Wish me luck, I'm gonna need it!
I'm equally excited and scared

sexual orientation, coming out (?) 

I identified as straight for 35 some-odd years, but I've decided that I'm more comfortable now identifying as pansexual. I no longer think "gender" has anything to do with who I'm attracted to.

I still feel primarily attracted to femme and feminine people, but what gender they identify with and/or were assigned at birth is of no real interest to me. And I find myself attracted to masc people more and more too as time goes on. I could see myself being with a masc person someday, and I think I'd like it to happen.

Wild how things change.

nsfw, kink, men 

Toxic masculinity: Gross, fuck off.
Healthy masculinity: Awesome, let's be friends (and by friends I mean fellow socially awkward recluses?)
Kinky masculinity: What's that? You're taking off your belt? How strange! For reasons I cannot fathom my body suddenly can't support itself and I need to lean over this chair I have handy. We should investigate this bizarre phenomenon!

Nsfw 

Despite everything I've learned over the years, about myself, about the diversity of sexual and sensual experience and expression, about the amazing things minds and bodies are capable of, and about how all of this is okay and real and valid and normal and perfectly fine...

I still sometimes can't help but feel a little absurd when I think about the fact that I'm nearly 30 years old and the phrase "good girl" can still turn my brain to jelly.

i'm just really super tired of people waving around Trans Acceptance flags at trans men and trans masc people as if saying "no YOU'RE okay because you're a TRANS man" is being nice and supportive

it isn't

it's telling us "you are not a real man because real men are awful"

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40 boosts and iโ€™ll send this horrible thing to my girlfriend, potentially jeopardizing our relationship in the process

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