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relationship explainer (updated) 

I'm non-hierarchical poly. I have 3 long-term D/s relationships:

- my property "K" (modified 24/7)
- my pet @Boo
- my girlfriend "E"

I also have a non-kinky spouse who is my co-parent

There are a handful of friends with whom I have occasional/casual scenes, and am comfortable with flirting/being lewded at (although, I'm clueless so I might miss it…)

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Kink, sex, communication 

There is no one-size-fits-all sub (nor Dom). Everyone is into different stuff. That's why you have to NE-GO-TI-ATE a scene before you do it.

Some people love anal. Some people are triggered by it. Some people love being choked. Some people have panic attacks. Some people like being growled at like a feral animal. Others (me) find it kinda silly and start rolling their eyes.

Talk to your sexual partners. Find out what they're into. What's on their list of favorite things to do during intimacy? If you don't show interest, you might just find yourself falling off of that list.

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Hey folks, I'm finally healthy enough to start working again. Most gig-site freelance writing work involves trying to sell stuff which, honestly, I suck at.

But I'm great educator and that's where I'd like to focus. Please help me reach people who could use my services:

Specializing in informational/educational writing.

Short term projects preferred.

Experience writing: Relationships, medical, mental health, self care/coping skills, parenting, social justice, more.

DMs welcome

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‘Goodbye. I'll never forget you. But I'll try’ — Wednesday Addams

D/s, slavery/pet/ownership in fiction 

I love it when media turns unexpectedly kinky. Show I'm watching (unnamed to avoid spoliers): "He's rather good at sex, I've decided to train him" (he objects to the slavery) "Nonsense, I gave you what you've always needed—I made you my pet"

High five sister, seriously

If your clever new web design “for better UX” involves increasing page size with useless chrome and dozens of MB of JavaScript, you did your UX study wrong

My user experience starts the moment I click on a link/enter a URL to visit your site. If it takes 20 seconds to load because you only tested page performance on your gigabit connection and latest gadgets, you fail

Eight years with E today, and we even managed to make the calendar work to spend the day together! There was coffee and breakfast and fudge and I-haven't-touched-you-since-March cuddles

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Today I woke up and saw someone posting an article entitled "If You Are Not Happy with the State of Magic, Stop Giving Wizards Your Money"

It's about Magic the Gathering, but man. It really took me a minute.

If someone wants to hire you to draw a red line with green ink, don't try to convince them it's not possible

Instead, quote them time and materials for the research project to explore how to accomplish it, at a suitably high rate. And make sure your contract is air tight

First attempt to roast a blended espresso; a bit too bright (acidic) for it to be *good* espresso, unfortunately. But it's serviceable! Which is an improvement over my previous (single-origin) attempts, which were undrinkable as espresso

Progress!

It is almost done being kilt and sandals weather. It is instead kilt and woolen knee socks weather.

lewd 

I had a rough day. This gives me two simultaneous desires:

1. I want to curl into bed with a soft person

2. I want to give said person a very different kind of rough day :devious_horns:

venting about "God" people 

Me: "I just want it to be perfect!"
Them: "only God is perfect!"

Bitch, God made it so you breathe and eat through the same opening, and did such a bad job that I can choke on my own spit

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8 years with K today! And in the tradition of "poly is about compromising and calendaring", we're celebrating on Wednesday 😅

swearing, lewd in some contexts, PSA 

Important reminder

Your periodic reminder that kindness does not always mean being nice

For example, kicking someone out of a space with a direct statement of the problem (eg "you are harassing others") is kind. To them, because without consequence they are unlikely to grow. And to the others in the space by keeping the space comfortable

In the moment, people who wish to be kind can easily forget this

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