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Reply to this post with a kink you're into. I want to hear all the weird details about it, and why you're into it.

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I wanna learn about your Kink 

So far I have *only* gotten boosts on this post.

Which is nice, but c'mon. I know some of ya'll boosters have weird kinks to tell me about. Who likes feet? Show of hands.

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables Wetting desperation. Not like, ABDL stuff, but like, grown women who can't use a washroom and are city folk so have never peed outside a toilet being humiliated by not being able to use one. Either letting go in their pants, or pull them down at the last moment.... or being tied up and made to let go.... stuff like that.

*turns BRIGHT ass red*

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi

1. ABDL?
2. In this kink, are you the wetter, or do you observe the wetting, or do you cause the wetting?

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables

1) Adult baby/Diaper lover. There are a few on Kinky.business if you have questions

2) Observe or cause, mostly. If I'm feeling very femme that might be me, but usually I want to be causing it.

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi

Ahh, I knew an ABDL when I was in college, I'm somewhat familiar.

I really feel you on the whole "if I'm feeling femme it might be me," thing. My kinks are deeply, deeply, deeply gendered as well. So while the roles themselves basically can't switch around (I've tried, it doesn't work for me); I often enjoy imagining myself as a woman in the femme position.

I don't know if I've ever talked to someone who admitted to sharing that particular quirk of mine!

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables I'm just getting used to it? I only finally decided for sure I'm gender fluid to at least some extant a couple weeks ago, so I'm still sorting things out

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi I 100% feel you. I've described myself as like...1-3% Gender Fluid. I have fantasies of having sex as a woman which go all the way back to...well, to literally the first time I discovered masturbation. So it's kind of a big deal to me, but also it's only ever been a masturbation thing for me, but also I understand that queer feelings are often sublimated into kink as a way of processing them in private?

Still only tentatively exploring the idea myself.

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables Yep, I'm pretty sure I am, I spend the first week of January entirely as they/them and she/her and it felt AMAZING. I'm feeling more he/him as of late now that I"m back home, but yeah, I think I"m more then 1-3%.

Yeah, my first fantasies were also being a women tied up and made to pee, and that morphed into getting fucked as I learned more about sex.

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi The very first time I masturbated, I was imagining myself as a slave woman in a roman senator's villa. He wasn't fucking his slaves, but I whispered in his ears and convinced him to make us all wear collars, and go around naked, and yadda yadda yadda teenage sex fantasy things.

I'm fairly comfortable as a man. I don't think actually transitioning would do much for me, as I only really feel femme very occasionally, and I'm mostly able to explore my femininity by writing stories from a woman's perspective, which I do quite often.

Good on you, though. it sounds like you're doing really well exploring gender fluidity. :)

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables Yeah, I don't want to transition, but dressing up in skirts, being called my painters girlfriend, etc, makes me VERY happy. But other times I prefer to go back to my birthname and so on.

First fantasy: Slavegirl tied up in the hold of a ship and being forced to wet myself as they wouldn't undo my manacles

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi I'm moderately into water sports myself; though I've never found myself drawn into accidental wetting. If you don't mind me asking, can you expound a bit on what sort of scenes work for you, and why you think they do?

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables Um, lets see. I saw one on reddit that was really hot. Imagine the water goes out, or the toilet is damaged by a falling tree or whatever, and for whatever reason the person can't go outside, and can't use the pumbing? Where do they pee? Trash can? In the pants? Put down a towel?

Just the humiliation of breaking your toilet training and having to do something so forbidden....

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi So, does watching a woman wet herself tie into a broader "humiliating women" kink for you, or is it really just specifically the wetting that you like?

I could definitely get in to forcing a sub to use a child's training potty.

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables Yes, the broader humiliating people kink. The potty squicks me out a bit, I'd rather a glass bowl or right onto the floor or something like that.

Position is also fun, I want to make someone lift their leg and pee on a pole like a bitch for example

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi Why would you say the potty squicks you out? It's actually funny you mention the glass bowl, because that's something I came up with myself at one point when talking to a partner with a similar kink.

Any other humiliation scenarios that you enjoy particularly?

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables Eh, it evokes children and that just nopes me the fuck out. Diapers are OK though.

I mean, anything that gives me power usually does something for me? I'm getting to explore more non-DS kinks lately so not much is coming to my head.

I um, and trying to figure out if I'm into S&M right now? I did't think I was as reading about it was very nope, and I don't like the feeling of being spanked, even if I like the *idea* of it, but I had sex with someone who was super into scratching and biting and such and well, I really liked spanking them, biting them, etc and hearing them make happy noises. They didn't help they just moaned and enjoyed it, and I enjoyed the scratcing and biting myself, so um, possibly?

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi I hear you on getting off on power. I generally find indulging in fantasies of being powerful soothing even without a sexual component to them. :)

I've generally enjoyed the idea of hurting someone more than I've actually enjoyed doing it. Probably because I can imagine hurting some shapeless sex puppet who exists only to absorb my desires; but when I'm actually doing it to a person I very quickly get wrapped up in wanting to be nice to them because they're a human being.

IRL I've mostly been with people who enjoy being hurt as an expression of power exchange, without actually enjoying the pain itself. I'd be interested in what it's like to be with a real masochist who enjoys the hurt.

Kink, ws, desperation 

@sinfulsyllables See, what changed it for me was that every time I did something they made they INCREDIBLY happy noises. If they'd gasped or yelped, even if I knew they were enjoying it, I don't think I could do it.

But they gave these long *moans* that were the most wonderful, I'm having fun sounds ever, so yeah, I was willing to do a lot to get them to keep making those noises and they felt WONDERFUL.

Kink, ws, desperation 

@pi That sounds incredibly nice. I would love that.

I don't get to play with as many new partners as I would like, due to being very shy, and very worried about how intimidating I might be to some people.

feet, d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables well... *raises hands*
feet are really hot to us. part of it's just from a "we just find this body part attractive" thing, but also, we find d/s creeps into most of our kinks, and being literally beneath someone's feet, or having someone beneath ours, is just... very pleasant for actualizing that power exchange, really? also, tights and socks and such definitely add to it.
we'll reply with a couple others!

d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables we mentioned that d/s creeps into everything - power play, vying for control, collars primarily as a way to give ourselves up to someone are Big for us.
also titles. there's something very very special to us about basically having a name to use for someone under only certain contexts, and when we sub, we switch to calling them by the title near exclusively instantly.

painplay re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables and then we'll throw our first thought at this post, painplay. we have pretty severe chronic pain, and we've never heard this perspective before from people, but for us, masochism is a way to subvert the un-fun constant pain with chosen, consensual, fun acute pain. it's a welcome distraction.
also we enjoy giving and receiving pain more without concepts like punishment being attached to it, actually.

painplay, biting re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables specific diversion: our favorite form of pain is biting, no doubt.
there's a certain amount of... intention and closeness it gives. and, when we're around so many weird otherkin and furries who are big scary monsters inside, it feels like we all get a little bit closer to that.

painplay re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@Fidgetsluttier

1. The idea of chosen pain being a nice departure from unavoidable pain is interesting, and makes a lot of sense to me! Thank you for sharing that.

2. I, too, enjoy decoupling pain from punishment. I very much like the idea of training a sub, and the goal of course would be for the sub to learn to behave exactly as the dom wants, and if you still want to inflict pain after that point you've either got to accept that pain can be fun for its own sake, or you've got to have a bratty sub, which isn't really my jam.

painplay re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables heh, yeah. training doesn't work for us because like... well basically any form of punishment doesn't?

like, we have a lot of complicated feelings about this, but mostly: we actively try to be obedient, and fuckups usually are the result of a disability like our memory problems or ADHD being a distraction, and being punished for those just feels like regular ableism

painplay re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables so it's like, that whole fiction of being trained to do something when we're already at the level of "we'll roll over for you at a moment's notice" is a *hard* headspace to get in

painplay re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@Fidgetsluttier

@sinfulsyllables

While I don't have chronic pain; this resonates with me. When I am in pain from a workout (which is often for me) or an accident, I love to have some other layer of intentional pain from my partner to focus on.

painplay re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@daddyslilpenguin @sinfulsyllables yeah! it's a concept not exclusive to disability, for sure.

d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@Fidgetsluttier I'd love some examples of titles. I enjoy them as well, and I'm always curious to see if there are any good ones I'm not using myself. :)

Your comment re: names reminds me of the "Planet of Adventure" books by Jack Vance. It's far from the man's best work, and sometimes can be pretty uncomfortable, but there's a woman in the stories who comes from a culture where everyone has many different names appropriate to different social situations. She eventually reveals her sex name to the protagonist as a way of letting him know she will be receptive of his attentions in that regard.

It was a tantalizing idea.

d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables when it comes to titles, a problem we have is that some can be *very* gendered? but that can be an advantage to create new ones. a fave is taking an honorific, like Mx. (or in our case, Vx. we made a poll where we asked if it was a good honorific, and the only options were "Yes" and "Yes, Vx." and that felt really great.)

but also there's a certain amount of roleplay, thinking outside the box, and such? we don't have a lot of examples, hmm

d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables we have known, for example, furries who outright have you address them by the animal they are, which can play into predator/prey dynamics.
Harm: Actually, "Dragoness" was a fun one.

d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@Fidgetsluttier Yeah, gendered titles generally work for me, as much of my kink is wrapped up in gender; but I get how that's a challenge.

Neither "Boss," nor "Captain" are gendered.

d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables would disagree about "boss" - it's not explicitly gendered, but "yes, boss" would INSTANTLY feel like a critical hit misgendering. like a "you hit me in the giant glowing resident evil weakspot" misgendering
it's a similar one to "buddy" there

captain.... that's certainly one to think about, thank you

feet, d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@Fidgetsluttier I 100% get feet as a D/s thing; and also tights and socks are lovely. They really draw the eye up towards the fun bits.

I'm somewhat fascinated by folks who find feet attractive in and of themselves. I have no strong feelings about them either way myself. They're a part of bodies, and if I like a person, I'm as likely to want to kiss their feet as I am to kiss their shoulder or their back.

Oddly, most of my partners have seemed to have a particular revulsion about their own feet.

feet, d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables for us, feet are attractive probably closer to a way that maybe chests are attractive, as a specific body part?

and with that, we think that socks and tights and even shoes can act a lot like the way a good pair of panties can emphasize a bulge on a girl, or a good bra looks extra cute. tights you can see toes through a little are *cute!*

feet, d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@Fidgetsluttier Would you care to speculate as to why you feel so strongly about feet?

feet, d/s re: I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables hmmm.
i mean, if we had to guess, theres' a certain lower-key gendering to body parts based on things like this, and feet are just one we started to fixate on in that sense? but frankly we dunno.

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables making a bookmark here to remember to come back and ramble about my kinks when I have the energy to write.

kink, spanking, humiliation 

@sinfulsyllables I have many kinks so I'll just return now and then to rant about a different one.

I love spankings! For a long time I didn't really consider myself a painslut, rather an enjoyer of sensual spankings, and maybe what I'd call an emotional masochist. But after I got my first proper spankings I knew I'd underestimated my appetite.

The enjoyment for me comes from two aspects. On the one hand, it's humiliating and indulges my submissiveness. Often when I'm spanked, I'm also participating in some kind of age play. One of my closest play partners is also my ex romantic partner, whom I still call Senpai. When we roleplay she has a kind of mentor/babysitter/disciplinarian role, and I love being in that position where she has power over me and I have to do whatever she says, because there's this implication that if I told anyone she was exploiting that power, her word would be believed over mine, since I'm just the "child" who "likes to tell fibs."

kink, spanking, pain/masochism 

@sinfulsyllables The other reason is definitely the pain. I'm not the kind of masochist that transmutes pain into pleasure. But what I've come to understand is that in the right headspace, my body will create pleasure in response to the pain, so I will feel both, in increasing intensity. I have a higher tolerance to a lot of kinds of pain than I ever really expected, and I've had a few years to develop it so I'm a little vain about it. 🤭

At times I've felt the pleasure so intensely it can almost drown out the pain. There have been a few caning scenes I've done where I remembering breathlessly begging "please don't stop" because I was riding a wave of pure euphoria.

So yeah spankings lend themselves well to slowly building up the pleasure alongside the pain and seeing if I can endure to make it onto the other side of the wave. :)

kink, spanking, pain/masochism 

@sinfulsyllables Clarification: When I say I don't transmute pain into pleasure, I mean that I don't stop feeling the pain altogether and INSTEAD feel only pleasure. Words like "tolerance," "endurance," and "limits" still apply. But there is absolutely a bi-product of pleasure that comes as a reaction to the pain, usually a second or so later.

kink, spanking, pain/masochism 

@squeedoodle I really ought to find someone like you to play with at some point.

My partner and I are compatible in many ways, but she certainly doesn't like being hurt to quite the extent that I like to do hurt. :)

kink, spanking, humiliation 

@squeedoodle I will always appreciate hearing about any kinks, but this one aligns closely with my own wont. :)

Ageplay is something that I have a lot of anxiety about, personally. Not because I dislike it--I actually have a lot of interest in exploring it--but because I'm afraid of being judged for it.

nsfw, bondage, mia what the fuck (we’re getting there) 

@sinfulsyllables A’ight, sure, why not. I got a few weird ones...

Storage bondage. Big plastic containers, under-bed drawers, glass display cases, and especially a closet barely big enough to hold its occupant. Naturally, it’s easy to open from the outside, but once you’re trapped in there...

There’s something *absurdly* hot about the idea of being put away like a toy, and left to wait for them to return... eventually...

nsfw, bondage, mia what the fuck (true form) 

@sinfulsyllables anyway then a friend of mine introduced me to the variant of this wherein “what if you were a doll and we could harmlessly disconnect your limbs and lay them useless and pretty beside you, so that you REALLY can’t escape your new display case”

and while for obvious reasons this is a fantasy kink for me, you would be surprised how close you can get with the right hypnosis

nsfw, bondage, mia what the fuck (true form) 

@perfectblue I can see the appeal. A former partner of mine had quite the robot kink, and I've met a lot of self-described "robogirls" on masto, most of whom would probably love the idea of being disassembled.

Weirdly, I don't think I've seen anyone express an interest in robot doms. That seems like a natural idea.

Remind me to write a story about a scientist who build a sex robot for herself, programs it to be dominant, but OH NO, it's dom programming caused it to take away her ability to control it or turn it off!

nsfw, bondage, mia what the fuck (true form) 

@sinfulsyllables Oh, I’ve totally done the robot-dom thing! The “her iron grip and unyielding servos effortlessly overpower you” bit is super fun to write.

Actually kinda had a “hot vampire” angle to it. She’s perfectly sculpted and immensely powerful; wouldn’t you like to join her as her mindless programmed thrall?

Robots are, in general, great. 😄

nsfw, bondage, mia what the fuck (we’re getting there) 

@perfectblue I for defs get the appeal, but I must ask: how interested would you actually be in having this done to you as a sub? Have you done it, and if so, for how long?

There are a lot of things that sound hot to me when I think "Oh yeah, and then it just goes on for hours and hours," but then when I actually try it, boredom sets in very quickly.

nsfw, bondage, mia what the fuck (we’re getting there) 

@sinfulsyllables See, I‘ve thought about that. If there were something going on outside that I could hear and think about, or a toy strapped in just the right position, I think maaaaaybe it could work.

But yeaaaaah, I suspect it’d get boring fast. Such is life.

nsfw, bondage, mia what the fuck (we’re getting there) 

@perfectblue There are many kinks I've discovered I enjoy much more as fantasies than as realities. This is not a bad thing. Fantasies are good! :)

fisting; I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables sure this is something i talk about quite openly. fisting! my favorite! both giving and receiving. i've done it many times, it isn't a fantasy for me like some parts of this thread.

what makes it great? intimacy! you can feel practically every motion the fistee makes, their heartbeat is readily apparent, even a deep breath has a feeling to it.

also a good stretching feels fucking amazing.

Orgasm denial/edging. 

@sinfulsyllables
I'm a huge fan of edging.
I enjoy the feeling of having a deeper sex life, free from the usual urgency of needing to have an orgasm, but somehow with much more attention to the orgasm.

Then there's when the tables turn and I get to deny someone else. The rush. The control. The pure intimacy of watching them get SOO close. Getting to know someone so well, explore their body, their sounds, what stimulates and turns them on. I love it.

I should note that simply because I enjoy orgasm denial does not mean I want to get hot and bothered and basically left with a blue vagina. I enjoy having an orgasm just as much as denying one.

Orgasm denial is about controlling and enjoying an orgasm, not reaching it, no shame if it happens though.
I love when someone reaches that point of having an orgasm and seeing what makes it happen. Seeing that side of someone, their reaction, the enjoyment of tease and denial.
Sometimes the rush ALMOST beats the orgasm.😁

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables I want to take a jackass of a man. Misogynistic and hateful possibly racist, overly proud of man things ..and make him a proper little trophy housewife. Cooks cleans minds the children. His ideal of a woman. Also I want him to fight me every step of the way til the inevitable end where I win.

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@valeriabliss I've always liked this idea a lot. It's honestly a little disappointing how strongly I prefer Mf, because there's so much less opportunity to explore that sort of social correction.

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables I mean I would've lying if I said correction was the goal. It's more now you have everything you wanted with a twist.. good luck fucker

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@valeriabliss Correction, revenge, poetic justice. Regardless of the particular terminology, it is:

1. Hot as all get out.
2. Wayyyyy less available to me as a fella who is exclusively into Mf power exchange.

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables that's a big part of it. Plus the whole taboo aspects and power trip

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@valeriabliss
Taboo as in giving one of those dudes the time of day, or taboo as in it would violate their taboos?

I wanna learn about your Kink 

@sinfulsyllables I think more a societal taboo in a playing God type. Dunno I'm half asleep at moment

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