dabby’s gorl @[email protected]

I jacked this from @[email protected], she got it from @[email protected]

What is okay to call me?

❌❌❌she/her
❗️he/him
‼️they/them
✔️it/its

❗️mr.
‼️mx.
❌ms.

‼️dude, bro, my guy, boi, lad, etc
❗️pal, anything gender neutral
‼️sir
❌❌sis, ma’am
❌❌girl/any other feminine unless it's like "Gurrl"

Don’t DM me without asking.
DEFINITELY don’t DM me if I don’t know you.

Why can’t I get paid to stay at home and read tarot cards and have sex with my boyfriend?

Shit, you know what? I probably could 🤷‍♀️

Masochistic bottoms love nine inch nails; I don’t make the rules, i just follow them

Cock-worshipping like:

Growing my hair out so He has something to pull on to keep my arch strong while He’s hitting it from behind

I am releasing the idea that any consensual way that I could seek-achieve pleasure - be it a mindset or a specific action/sequence - is “wrong”. It’s OKAY and fuuuuucking GOOD that I choose to submit myself fully to someone I love and trust during intimate and private acts. It’s okay if I want to give them my pleasure to heighten their own! It’s also okay that I have trouble doing that, and I’m making progress!!

Okay, maybe me saying “oh I don’t need it” is a cop-out so I can avoid the very real fears I have surrounding my own sexual vulnerability. And maybe I DO want to cum, I mean I DO LOVE CUMMING. I just feel so much PRESSURE to do it when it comes to being intimate with someone else, and I get very in my head about how I look when it’s happening, that’s the big thing. Even with that though, I’m kind of into humiliation!

HEAR ME OUT. I don’t seek intimacy with my Master so that I can achieve orgasm. That’s not my goal. If anything, my ultimate goal is pleasing Him (I’m a fucking slave, pun-intended). Oh! I COULD frame it as my orgasm being for His pleasure, as well... that could help me work through some of those mental blocks, and it does turn me on to think about/when he says things like that/praises me for being pleasured.... hmmmmmm

HOWEVER, now having been and continuing to be with a man who sees my pleasure as equally important, I can’t quite get away with this anymore. He WANTS me to cum. He feels like a loser if I don’t. Inadequate. Greedy. And I DO respect and DEEPLY APPRECIATE the consideration!!! However, I’m also wondering if maybe it’s just not for me? Like maybe *I* don’t NEED to orgasm during every sexual encounter to feel satisfied

This has made it so much more possible for me TO relax, enjoy the ride, and yes CUM with them in the room (so to speak...) As a very submissive bed-partner, I love to focus on the other person’s pleasure- and maybe especially because my climax is something I tend to keep to myself, it takes a lot of pressure off of me to do so. being mostly with men I got away with this because it’s the “norm” 4 hets

Having a Partner who checks in with me, who respects where I am with this very intimate struggle and doubles down on previously stated boundaries. Who makes sure I’m doing things because *I* want to do them and not from pressure to please THEM with MY pleasure. EVEN THOUGH they’re struggling with their own feelings of inadequacy (fully imagined, they’re GODLY in bed) they make space for me to breathe.

HOWEVER, when it comes to being with others, whether it’s sex, kink-play, cybersex over video or phone... I find myself having to really press myself over the edge. I do wonder if this is related to a belief that my pleasure is only my own when it’s achieved in secret... something to think about.
You know what’s really good, though?

So, confession. I have a hard time cumming with someone else involved. Even during sex- even during really GREAT, kinky sex that is tailor-made to my personal desires and involving someone I trust and love. I have a LOT of mental blocks around my own pleasure, because for a long time orgasm was a shameful thing I had to achieve in secret. I love masturbating, and find it quite easy to climax on my own

Fuck, I just LOVE CUM. Mine, my Master’s,,,, that’s it I guess but boyo boy do I love O/our cums

It’s amazing I can type right now

Yesterday I woke up, and in that groggy state I laid in bed for an hour fantasizing about Him getting home from work, unzipping His pants and telling me to take Him into my mouth... Fucking my throat in that slow way He loves to fuck me, making sure I feel every little movement. Once I’ve swallowed His load, He’ll go shower, and return to give me my reward... fucking me slowly in that position I love, commanding me to cum, and giving me His cum again, deep in my cunt 🥰💦😩